Monday, April 29, 2013

Having Children

No this is not an announcement about us having a bun in the oven. Rather just a place to vent a little of my frustration.
As newlyweds we are constantly getting bombarded with questions of when we're going to start having kids. Some people have nice encouraging comments about having children but most are rather negative.
I am constantly getting told that we need to wait till we finish college, travel, are financially stable, own a house, have had fun or we'll regret having children so soon.
I'm sorry but when did having children young become such a negative idea. I see children as a blessing from God and if He chooses to bless me with one soon, I won't be crying with regret but rather with overwhelming joy. Yes I do realize that they may have the best intentions when warning me against reproducing in my twenties, but I also think pregnancy and having kids shouldn't be looked at as a burden or a killjoy on having fun when your young. Personally I think having kids will be one of the greatest and most rewarding adventures of my life, and I will treat it as such. I know there will be rough days, I'm not ignorant, my youngest brother was born when I was seventeen. I know all about dirty diapers, sleepless nights, and tantrums in the store but I also know about the sweet kisses, toothless grins, and wild imaginations.
Have any of you had to deal with negative comments about having children? How do you respond to them?

Monday, April 1, 2013

Marriage

Obviously since I've been married a whole three weeks I've got this marriage thing figured out. Ha just kidding, but there are a few things I've noticed so far.
1. Cooking for two when your used to cooking for more than seven, is very hard to say the least. (We still have two meals of spaghetti waiting in the freezer...and I won't tell you how much we've already eaten, all from one pot.)
2. Learning to sleep together is much more difficult than I anticipated...also I'm pretty sure he tries to kill me in my sleep, that's the only way I could possibly have all these ridiculous bruises.
3. There is only so much cleaning that can be done. I'm waiting till after we get back from Hawaii to get a job, so my day consists of making up chores I can do till Jeremiah gets home from work.
4. Getting to see him every day is all sorts of wonderful. Marriage is so much better than long distance dating.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Engagement Pictures

I promise I haven't completely abandoned you.
I do have some posts in mind, I just don't have all the time needed to sit down and write them all out yet.
Really the only social media that I've even been active on is Instagram.
If you want to see what I've been up to wedding wise feel free to add me, my username is maiaw13.

Meanwhile I'm going to distract you with some of our engagement pictures!





 Why yes, he does make this face at least once in every photo shoot we do.


 The slide was wet, so we didn't really slide down so much as slowly wiggle our way down. Thus our faces.


 My preparing myself for an underdog face apparently...






Tuesday, February 5, 2013

My life lately

On Friday I flew back from two wonderful weeks in Colorado with Jeremiah.
We spent the two weeks wedding planning, shopping, meeting people, going on dates, and just enjoying each others company.
I was supposed to fly back Thursday but my flight was cancelled. 
I was one happy girl to spend a few more hours with Jeremiah, plus he took me to a couple antique stores and spoiled me which is always a plus.

Since getting back 
I've been working on centerpieces for the wedding (you can see some pics on my instagram)
I finished putting my Home Management binder together. Someday when I have more time I might do a post on it.
 I've also packed up everything I won't need for the next month.

On February 15th I fly out to California for a week for my bridal shower, and to spend time with my mom #2 planning our second reception. 

I won't officially be back to blogging for a while, but I will do my best to do updates here and there.
I hope you all are doing great, thank you for your kind words and support!
I appreciate them all! 


Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The Calm before the Storm

Tomorrow morning I'm hopping on a plane to go see my love.
 I'll get to spend two wonderful weeks with him.
 This will be one of the last calm times before the wedding. 
After I get back from CO the next month is filled with wedding plans, crafting, a bridal shower, my best friend flying in and then of course our wedding. Things don't slow down after March 9th either, the first three months of our marriage will consist of  honeymoons, a second reception, graduations, and friends weddings. 
You get the point the next five months are going to be crazy, all of this to say you might not see much of me on here.
 I promise I'll be back though, with plenty of wedding goodness to satisfy you.




Our Little Secret

Sometimes I really miss being in school. I can't wait till next semester starts and I can go back. I know you all probably think I'm crazy but I love everything about college, the new textbooks (not so fond on the cost though), getting new notebooks to write in, the nervousness leading up to your first class, meeting new friends, I miss it all.

Sometimes I fall up stairs. This happens more often than you would think, as a result I always have bruises.
Back when Jeremiah and I were just friends I fell up the concrete stairs to our dorms and chipped my knee cap. He was pretty sweet and carried my books for me while I learned to maneuver on crutches. I actually think this was the start of us liking each other so maybe being clumsy isn't a bad thing.

Sometimes I jokingly get called a Cougar, because apparently being  1 1/2 years older than my fiance qualifies me for that term. Who knew?

Sometimes I get really nervous about my upcoming Bridal Shower, I hate opening presents up in front of people. So a whole event revolving around me opening presents in front of people sends me into a mini panic attack. I just hope I don't faint or vomit in front of everyone.

Sometimes I look into the requirements for a marriage license in CO and have a major panic attack when I find out both parties have to be present to apply and it expires after 30 days. I leave to visit him tomorrow but even if we apply at the end of my visit it will expire a week and a half before our wedding. Eloping sounds even more awesome right now.

Sometimes I listen to old voice mails from Jeremiah so I can hear his voice. Long distance and his work schedule isn't working out well right now.

Sometimes I can't help but lay awake at night and be thankful for the life God has given me, I am so beyond blessed I feel like I'm living in a dream.









Tuesday, January 15, 2013

How I found my wedding dress

Against all odds I get to wear my dream dress on March 9th. The way everything worked out was amazing, and I am blessed. 
I have always loved the style of my dress but most designs were upwards of $5000, way outside of my budget.
I had come to terms with the fact that I would have to settle for a dress other than the one I loved.
I found a perfect one on Etsy but it was still $1,250 a little over my $1000 budget, I kept an eye on it though because I loved it so much.
One day while perusing Pinterest I came across a pin of that perfect dress from Etsy, I clicked on it expecting it to take me to Etsy but it didn't.
It took me to a website that was using the pictures of the dress and claiming it as their own.
I copied the links and messaged the seller on Etsy, she was horrified that someone would do that and quickly contacted them telling them to remove her pictures.
They did and she messaged me back thanking me and offered me 20% off if I decided to order the dress from her.
Bringing the total of my dream dress under my budget.
I still can't believe that this happened to me, I mean things like that only happen in books and movies right?!
Thanks to my obsession with Pinterest and Etsy, I am now the proud owner of my dream dress.
Dreams do come true, even in the most unusual and unexpected ways!


Monday, January 14, 2013

How I stay organized enough to plan a Wedding in 4 Months

  

When I tell my friends that I'm planning a wedding in four months, the responses I usually get are "Are you crazy?", "You're pregnant aren't you?" and "How do you stay organized and get everything done in 4 months?"
First of all I've never claimed to be normal so that crazy part might be true, and secondly no way is there any chance I'm pregnant. Now to answer how I stay organized.
When we first started dating I always told Jeremiah that I would need a year to plan, but when we got engaged both of us were tired of long distance and not willing to do it for another year. 
So I reevaluated how much time it would honestly take me to plan a wedding, and we decided four months would be enough time.

1. Decide what you want:
 The first thing I did was decide exactly what aspects I wanted to include in our wedding.
This will give you a starting point on when you need to get things done.
For example I decided fresh flowers were unnecessary so that eliminated needing to meet and talk with a florist. I also decided to decorate my own cake eliminating the need to meet with a baker but also adding time for me to brush up on my cake decorating skills. I knew I wanted a good photographer so that was something I would need to start looking for right away. Decide what you want and what is most important to you, this is critical for planning a wedding in a short time, otherwise you'll get disorganized and try to do too many things at once.

2. Wedding Planner and Lists:
Now that you know what you want included in your wedding day you can make a wedding planner designed specifically for your wedding. I was not at all picky on a planner because I knew there were a lot of printouts from the internet I wanted.
The lists I included were:
Basic Checklists
Vendor Payment
Sample Timeline
Vendor Questions
Real Simple Wedding Magazine had a nice checklist in it as well.
This website has a nice list for planning a wedding in 3 months that gave me some ideas on when I should get things done. I'm not Mormon so obviously not everything applied to me but it was a good jumping off point since most wedding to do lists are based on a year planning time.
I also bought a little notebook I can fit in my purse, I jot down everything in there, prices from stores, things that still need to get done, notes from talking to vendors and I even have the rough drafts for our wedding invitations written in there. That way it is all in one place and I can take it everywhere with me, if there is something that needs to be transferred to my big wedding planner I do it right away.

3. Know your Limits:
I went through my Pinterest board and the pages I had booked marked on my computer only ONCE.
I made a list of the crafts I wanted to do, and left it at that. I knew that if I kept going through it I would find more and more that I wanted to do and overload myself.
There is only one exception to this rule, if I know there is something I want and can't find it exactly then I'll turn to Pinterest to see if I can find anything there. Etsy is also a great place if you have a bunch of DIY projects that you love but can't get to all of them, most likely there is someone on Etsy selling what you want.
Yes it will probably cost more than what it would if you did it yourself but think of it this way, your saving yourself time and stress.

4. Delegate, Delegate, Delegate:
I cannot stress this point enough. People are happy that you're getting married, they want to help so don't be afraid to ask. I gave my lovely maid of honor the task of finding bridesmaid dresses, my future mother in law is in charge of finding the groomsmen wear, she's also planning our second reception, the pastors wife is in charge of all the food and Jeremiah has been doing all the foot work for our venue since I've never been there. Having these things taken care of is a huge relief, I can now focus my attention elsewhere.

These are the 4 main things that help me stay focused and organized enough to pull off a wedding in four months.
 If you've planned a wedding in under a year what are some tips you used to stay organized?


Honeymoon and a Sweet Conundrum

We've officially booked honeymoon number 2!! Maui here we come. The one downside to both of us being young is we can't rent a car haha, oh well. We are going to rent bikes for most of the time we're there, time to start working on my endurance and leg strength!

Originally for our reception we were going to do a bunch of cupcakes instead of a big cake, but I'm kind of liking the idea of having a desert bar with a bunch of different choices instead. I'm still not sure which idea I like better, but I still have some time to figure it out.


Friday, January 11, 2013

Wedding Card Box DIY

I'm sure you've seen this idea floating around Pinterest. 
I loved it so much I decided to try and recreate it for myself.

This would be a much simpler project if you started with a black mail box.
However I decided to use one my grandpa made when my dad was a little boy so I had to paint it black. 
 This was my starting point, I had to wipe it down and clean it out really well to make sure the paint went on smoothly.
 These were the paints I used. The red and grey are our wedding colors.
 I covered the flag so that when I spray painted the body black this wouldn't get any paint on it.
 I had to do a couple coats to get the black even all the way around.
Tip: Don't let anyone move it to your dusty basement. Because then the paint will get ruined, and you'll have to sand it down and start all over again.
Not that it happened to me or anything...
Because I didn't trust myself to free hand it I found a font online that I liked, downloaded it and then cut our names out.
 I taped our names on and made sure they were straight with a piece of paper.
I painted the flag, making sure to cover behind it so it didn't splatter onto the black.
 I painted the names twice to make sure I covered it well enough.
Ta Da! The finished result. I love it, it turned out really well.
 I think it will be the perfect addition to our gift table at the reception.


Wedding Craftiness


There is some serious wedding crafting going on around here, this project is almost done!
I'll do a full blog post later tonight or tomorrow!


Thursday, January 10, 2013

Currently

Missing: Jeremiah its been almost three months since I last saw him. Can't wait till next Thursday when I get to fly to CO and see him.

Moving: I'm trying to pack all of my non needed stuff so I can take it with me to Colorado,I'm officially moving and changing my name in 58 days!

Playing: Country music on my ipod, it doesn't get much better than this folks.

Considering: Having a Desert Bar instead of doing cupcakes. I like the idea of having a bunch of different choices.

Thinking: About what's left on my wedding to do list. Not much just a bunch of crafts and last minute decisions.


Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Countdown

Today marks one week until I get to see Jeremiah! 
I get to spend two whole weeks with him, that will be the longest we've been together since April, it''ll be awesome.
It will also be the last time I see him until our wedding week.
 Today also marks two months until I get to marry him!
We are halfway through our engagement period, these next two months can't go by fast enough.
 Excited doesn't even begin to cover how I'm feeling. 
And yes I'm one of those that counts down the days until we get married, don't judge.


Our Little Secret

Sometimes on long road trips Jeremiah sings Shania Twain's song "Man! I feel like a woman!" And I die laughing every time. I'm glad he's comfortable enough in his masculinity to sing it cause it's hilarious and I really should get it on video.

Sometimes I send pictures like this to Jeremiah.

I think it's my way of preparing him for the horror that is known as woman beautification. Also because I have a weird sense of humor.

Sometimes he wears purple and red just to annoy me and cause he thinks it looks good. I'm sorry but all I can think of when I see that color combination is the red hat society.

Sometimes I still feel like a kid and wonder what gave me the idea that I'm qualified to get married. Then I remember marriage is a learning and growing process, thank goodness Jeremiah has patience with me.

Sometimes I'm incredibly stubborn about something and then I realize I was wrong but I'm to prideful to admit it at the time so I keep being stubborn about it. I really am trying to work on that.

Sometimes I get excited about being married cause it means I'll have my own kitchen, is that weird?

Sometimes I get baby hungry (babies are so cute, I can't help it), and when I tell Jeremiah he laughs and reminds me of the song that started playing on the radio right after we got engaged. Diamonds make Babies by Dierks Bentley. Talk about timing...if you haven't heard it go listen to it here, you'll see why the timing was impeccable. I'm pretty sure Jeremiah and the DJ were in on some kind of plot together.



Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Wedding Planning

To say that I'm an unconventional bride would be correct. You know those rules you always find about everything you HAVE to do as soon as you get engaged, well I didn't do them.

I still have yet to nail down a budget. Now that's not to say I have an unlimited budget but my parents know I'm wise with money and very do it myself so it never was an issue. Is it for everyone, probably not, but it is nice not to have to stress about fitting things into a certain dollar amount. 

My parents also aren't paying for the whole wedding. They just moved, payed off all their debt and are starting over, Jeremiah and I didn't want to put that burden on them. So Jeremiah and I are paying for half of the wedding.

I didn't go to a bridal salon to try on dresses, that whole aspect never appealed to me. I was one of those brides who bought her dress offline, is it perfect? yep! everything I ever dreamed of? you better believe it.

 I didn't give myself a year to plan a wedding, I gave myself 4 months, and to be quite honest I think that ended up being a little to long, you see I'm a type A personality I like lists and I like to get things done quickly so most of the wedding planning is already done and now I'm just sitting here twiddling my thumbs thinking about how long two more months seems. 

I didn't pick a day that had special meaning, or was convenient for everyone, I picked a day when I was sure I wasn't going to be on my period. Yep that's the only reason our wedding is on March 9th, I didn't want to be doubled over with cramps. 

We aren't having the wedding in my hometown. We're having the wedding in a little town I've never been to, and where we know zero people. Why? Well it is where Jeremiah is working and living now so it was convenient for us for after the wedding, and it was a more central location for all our family and friends to travel to.

We're not honeymooning right after the wedding, we're doing it a month after. Jeremiah gets a week off every month so rather than asking for more time off we decided to just plan it on the week he has off in April.

So if you're an unconventional bride like me don't feel bad about breaking those so called rules, it's your day do what makes you happy. Here's to being engaged and planning the wedding of your dreams!






Sunday, January 6, 2013

My Weekend

I don't have a grand post planned for today but I promise I'll make up for it later this week with some wedding goodness. Meanwhile here's how my weekend went down.

I worked on a wedding craft which I'll reveal to you later this week, it'll be awesome.

I went shopping for new jeans that actually fit and don't make me look like a wanna be gangsta. 
I discovered that my right leg is disturbingly bigger than my left. 
Ok back story time here,
I fractured my left knee at the end of September which has resulted in me wearing a brace and my poor right leg has had to take up all the slack.
 I am now the proud owner of one Arnold Schwarzenegger right leg, yep it's awful and makes looking for jeans a nightmare. 
Good news is my left knee is almost back to it's full functioning capability which means I can work them both out equally and get two Schwarzenegger legs.
 How's that for a mental image. 

Mom and I went wedding crazy at Hobby Lobby.
I discovered my love for signage.
Which means any sign that is red or gray and has love on it somewhere from Hobby Lobby is going to be found at my wedding. 
Good thing I can use them to decorate our house afterwards.

I ate a ton.
Because I start my allergy diet tomorrow.
Even though it's for my own good I'm still not looking forward to it. 





Thursday, January 3, 2013

Three favorite Items from Etsy


Etsy has been my go to place for finding unique items for my wedding. I spend countless hours surfing through Etsy and getting awesome ideas for my wedding.
So far some of my favorites that I've bought have been:

1. Invitations from Designed with Amore
These invitations were exactly what I was looking for and I have gotten so many compliments on them.

2. Antique Heart Ring Box from Hafenwood
My little brother the ring bearer was super excited when this came in, he keeps asking when he can carry it for me.

3. Alternative Guest Book from Modern Keepsake-Personalized Prints
I have never liked the idea of having a guestbook that you never look at again, so I knew I wanted something different that I could use as art in our future home. I was so excited when I came across this one.

All of these shop owners were such a pleasure to work with, and put up with me changing my mind.
I love all of these and can't wait to use them for our wedding day!

I ordered my wedding dress from Etsy as well but you'll have to wait till after the wedding to see that!



Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Our Little Secret


Sometimes my little brother and sister say the funniest things and I'm guilty of telling everyone I know because they are just so hilarious.


Sometimes I get sick of wedding planning so I just stop for a week at a time and then I freak out cause I'm afraid I won't get everything done and I stress myself out so much that I get sick of it...yea it's a vicious cycle.

Sometimes I try to pretend I'm strong about Long Distance Relationships all the time but I'm not, there are nights where I break down and cry myself to sleep, pathetic? Yea maybe.

Sometimes I miss Arizona, which is crazy because I always thought I would hate it there, but I guess I fell in love with the people I met and memories I made there.

Sometimes eloping sounds awesome, ok actually more like all the time.

Sometimes I'll remember something funny Jeremiah has said or done and I'll start laughing, out loud, like a crazy woman, and people will stare at me. Oh well that guy is hilarious so I can't help it.




Pin It button on image hover